Thursday, February 20, 2014

Do You Want Kids?

"When I live with Granny and Papa when I am a grown up I'm going to eat chocolate chip pancakes, syrup and bacon every single day," my oldest son announced as we drove home from a family night out.  Living with Granny and Papa when he grows up has long been in his future plans and we often hear of the adventures they will have together when he is free from mine and my husband's rule.  "Oooh that sounds good," I said.  "Will your wife and kids eat it too?" I asked.  He gave an exasperated sigh as if we have covered this and I should know the answer.  "I am not going to have any kids!" he said with frustration.  "Really?" I asked.  "How come?"  I expected his usual response.  He will almost always say that he doesn't think they could live at Granny and Papa's so he's not going to take the chance of getting kicked out just to have some kids around.  This time, though, he was even more clear.  "Mommy!  I don't want to have kids because then I would have to share all my bacon!!" he said with great gusto.  Of course. The bacon.

Next, my little one chimed in.  "Me have babies.  Me have baby boys," he told us.  "Oh really?  What will you do with your baby boys?" my husband asked.  "They be bad.  Me lock them up!"  he said.  "Oh no...What will you do if they are hungry?" I asked him.  "Me feed them," he answered simply.  "Oh that's good.  What will you do if they have to go to the potty?" I asked  "Me take them," he answered.  "Me love them," he told me.  

Both of their stories made us laugh but they also made us realize what is important to them right now.  My oldest is obviously feeling a bit territorial.  He's sick and tired of having to share and follow our rules so he has created a fantasy world where everything is for him and about him.  He's not quite ready for selfless acts and raising children (the MOST selfless thing one can do!) is at the very bottom of his wish list.

My youngest, on the other hand, just wants to be the boss sometimes.  He wants to be in charge of what happens next and make at least one decision a day.  I can only imagine what it's like to be the younger one that is constantly told what to do, how to do it and when to do it.  In his fantasy, he is free of these chains.  He is in charge.

There is nothing like a kid's response to a question.  There is no way to guess what they will say.  There is no way you can prepare for their answer.  But we can certainly listen to what they are really saying to us.  Sometimes I think they are just being silly but other times I think it can give us a real glimpse into their mind.  So what will you ask your children today?

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