Saturday, August 31, 2013

You're Still Beautiful

I have a habit of freshening up my makeup before my husband comes home.  This is a learned habit.  I always remember my mom putting on a fresh coat of bright pink lipstick as we pulled in the driveway.  When we asked why she said, "I've gotta keep your father interested."  While I think he stayed interested for more reasons than her lipstick, there's something to that.  If we try to look good for our husbands, even in small ways, they notice.  

My son has watched this habit over the course of his four years and he has begun asking the same question I did thirty years ago.  "Mommy, why do you need to put makeup on?"  he asks.  "I just want to look nice for Daddy," I tell him.  He has left it at that for several months.  But yesterday, he heard the garage door opening and ran into to alert me.  "Mommy!  Mommy!  Daddy's home early and he will think you aren't beautiful if you don't hurry up and get your makeup done!" he yelled.  That's when I knew a bit of clarification was needed.

I explained that Daddy does think I'm pretty without makeup.  It's just that I want to do a little something extra for him.  He thought about this and said, "Well, I think you are just as beautiful without makeup.  And I'm going to make sure to tell Daddy that, too."  He was good on his word.

When my husband walked in, our son stood tall and said firmly, "Daddy, I think Mommy is just as beautiful without makeup."  He cast his eyes down for a moment showing that he was a bit nervous about this stance but still felt strongly about it.  My husband didn't miss a beat.  He ruffled our son's hair and said, "I completely agree, buddy.  Mommy is a natural beauty."  "Yeah, she is," our son said.

This interaction came on the heels of a week when my son was an absolute terror.  He had tested me to my max.  I considered adoption.  Okay, not really, but it wasn't fun.  I can't explain to hear how much I needed to hear his sweetness come back through.  I write these kindnesses down to tell you but also to remind myself to look for them even when things feel crazy.  There's always a moment that will get you through the rough days.  

What kindnesses do you hold close to your heart?  Do you tend to remember more of the good or the bad things that happen?  How can you use the good to help remind you that things will eventually turn around?

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