Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Strengths and Weaknesses

My husband and I are very very different.  He is neat and tidy.  I am like a hurricane.  He can watch fifteen shows at the same time and follow every single one.  I like to read books.  He could hang out with people for a week straight and love every minute of it.  I really like to be alone.  He could stay up all night.  I am in bed by 9:30.  He likes junk food.  I would love to live in Whole Foods. The list could go on and on. I've always thought of our differences as something to overcome but recently, I've been enlightened to a new way of thinking.

Our church is going to begin a marriage mentoring program and my husband and I want to be a part of it.  Our pastor mentioned a getaway hosted by Family Life Ministries called a Weekend to Remember.  He told us that he and his wife and gone before and it was a great way to start thinking about what makes a really great marriage.

Here’s the part where I wish I could tell you that I was 100% on board.  I wasn’t.  In fact, I was a little freaked out.  “Do you think we will have to talk about our feelings in a big group?” I asked my husband.  “Will the people there be total extremists?  Will I have to pretend I don’t swear or listen to normal music?”  I felt a little like my four year old.  My husband said lovingly, “Wait a minute.  I thought this was right up your alley.  Two full days of talking about feelings!”  Okay, so he had a point.  I checked out the website and decided to give the conference a leap of faith.

It. Was. Awesome.  The speakers were real, the issues were relevant and, I must say, it made our already great marriage even better.  I’m going to share a few of the best takeaways this week and I’ll start with strengths and weaknesses.  

The facilitators asked us to hold up our hands.  One hand represented us, the other represented our spouse.  She said, “Your fingers represent your strengths.  Do you both have strengths?” (Absolutely. Yes.)  “The space between your fingers represents your weaknesses.  Do you both have weaknesses?” (Maybe…Okay, yes.)  “Now place your hands together and interlock your fingers.  Suddenly you can see that your partner’s strengths may be the secret to you overcoming  your weaknesses.” (Aha moment).

Over and over again they stressed that we need each other to get through the tough times and everyday life.  God designed us to complement each other, not to be exactly the same. You see, he’s supposed to drive you nuts.  She’s supposed to drive you nuts.  But we are also supposed to help guide each other so that we can do anything as a team.

What weaknesses do you find your spouse helping you to overcome?  

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