Saturday, March 9, 2013

To Work or Not to Work?

We have all struggled with this decision.  You may have had a plan when you were pregnant to do a long maternity leave (3 months off!!) then head back to work to continue your career.  You may have planned all along to stay at home with your babies.   Later, you may have felt the tug to do something that challenges your mind.  Or you may have been like me.  I wanted to go back to work right up until that day I held my first son in my arms.  Then I thought you might have to use machinery to remove him from said arms to make me go back to do something as lame as marketing software.  But I did go back to work.  I worked up until my second son was born and we finally had the option open to me to stay with the kids.  

I have friends that are dying to stay home and friends that are dying to go back to work.  But there are a few, including me, that are very happy with where they are.  I have been thinking a lot about why that could be the case and I have a hypothesis I would like to run by you.  I think it's because of the "why".

My sister, for example, loves to be with her kids and she loves the challenges of her career.  Why does she work?  She works because she absolutely believes in what she is doing.  She has a passion for success and will do what it takes to win.  Does that make her a bad mom?  I certainly don't think so.  She goes home happy and fulfilled.  She brings that passion and energy to her family as well as her career.  There are times when one takes over; it certainly isn't balanced 50/50 all the time.  It can't be if it's going to work for her.  She understands that life is fluid.

I love staying home and I only work on projects like Perchable or church volunteering in between.  I only say yes to things that I know will enrich my life.  Why do I stay home?  It is what I love.  I am fascinated with child development, learning and growth.  I think my children are hilarious and interesting to be around.  I enjoy creating a home that feels lived in and happy and whole.  I stay home because that is what I love.  Does that make me lazy or less than my working counterparts?  I certainly don't think so.  I'm doing a job that I feel that I was made to do.

But then some of you work because you absolutely don't have a choice.  Believe me, I have been there.  But that's a whole other blog post.  Just remember that, no matter your path, you are an exceptional parent. You are doing the absolute right thing for your family at this moment.  I know it.

Why do you stay home or work? Don't take the easy way out - really think about it.  Let me know your answers.  I'd love to hear your thoughts on this one.

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